I’ve been meaning to write this post for quite a while. For some reason, it’s difficult for most to believe that a woman wants to be single. Personally, I hate the dating landscape because it seems forced. We all tend to only put our best foot forward not knowing what will commence afterwards. But that has nothing to do with the topic at hand. I enjoy being single because I don’t need a relationship to validate my self worth, I don’t think I necessarily need anyone to make me happy.
That’s also why I don’t get why some people jump from relationship to relationship but to each their own. If I were to get into a relationship, my significant other would they’re an addition to my life rather than someone I absolutely cannot live without. I feel like I’m a complete person on my own with or without someone by my side. I have enough fulfilling relationships (aka family and friends) in my life. If I were to date someone, they would just be an extension of my friends except with romance. That’s also why I prefer romances that bud out of friendship.
When women say they’re not looking for a relationship, some people think, “oh let me try harder, maybe they’ll end up liking me through persistence.” To which I STRONGLY disagree with because NO ONE can force a relationship or feelings of any sort. No matter how much someone may cry, pout or throw tantrums NOTHING is going to come out of it besides eventually getting annoyed with the person.
I will agree that when women say they’re not looking for a relationship they mean one of two things: a) they’re not interested in you OR b) they REALLY don’t want to be in a relationship. (However, for the most part I think about 95% of the time, it’s definitely option 1, that we’re not interested.) If a woman does end up in a relationship, do not take it out on her saying that she led you on. When in reality she didn’t give any hint of her being interested. The issue with her directly telling a guy that she’s not interested is that sometimes a guy will end up taking it as a “let me try harder, maybe she’ll like me” or react in a volatile fashion.
While this can apply to both genders, this does happen with women more commonly.
I am certain that no one would appreciate it if someone was trying to force them into a relationship they don’t want to be in.
And THAT is why I wrote this post.