If there’s one excuse I’ll never get, it’s the emotional unavailability excuse. It’s the equivalent to “it’s not you, it’s me” excuse. To find out what it means, I looked it up on Google and Urban Dictionary.
According to Urban Dictionary, to be emotionally unavailable is to create barriers to make someone feel unloved/unwanted.
While this probably isn’t what it means to be “emotionally unavailable” in depth, it DOES speak of the affect it has. Saying one is “emotionally unavailable” is a way of not owning up to your true emotions.
Thing is these emotionally unavailable people are looking for a cop out. But would hate if someone did that to them. They fail to realize the key to success in relationships is commination.
The issue is, those who claim to be “emotionally unavailable” know what it is, an excuse.
These excuses will sabotage any chances at a healthy relationship in the future. They expect honesty and respect yet aren’t willing to give it to anyone either. Unfortunately, the world doesn’t work like that.
Emotionally unavailable people need to focus on not being in relationships unless they’re willing to be selfless. Being in a relationship means being selfless and caring about another person as an equal.
It isn’t to say be attached at the hip but care enough to be straightforward. Until they learn to stop shifting the blame for their shortcomings or indecisiveness, they should stay away from relationships. No one wants to feel discarded, so they should learn to treat others the way they’d like to be treated.
The TL;DR for this is, “emotionally unavailable” is an excuse instead of saying you’re not feeling it anymore.