Ever since reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, I’ve learned one thing. People are obsessed with positivity. While there’s nothing wrong with positivity the problem is we’re told that there should be no room for negative emotions. We’re all humans and feeling sad/upset is something we will all feel. To ignore it and force ourselves into being positive all the time, ultimately, is a way to avoid feeling. It’s a way to avoid our own problems. I would know because I tended to be an escapist when it came to feelings.
But now I’ve come to accept the fact that not everything will be dandy all the time. And there’s not much I can do about it. I try to be a positive person for the most part but sometimes there will be times where I’ll feel like crap. But it happens. How can we accept true happiness without having some adversity in our life. Because once everything goes right or we don’t have any other problems in our life, we’ll find other things to nitpick at or complain about. Truth is we are always going to have problems but we have to find out what problems are worth having. The only problem with the positivity obsession is ignoring the problem at hand. How else will we create a better future for ourselves if we don’t recognize that everything isn’t okay.
Positivity is great when it isn’t being used to avoid problems. And that’s the whole problem with all this positivity talk is that there will be times when things will suck. But without those times we won’t appreciate the good.
All in all, hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.
If we can accept that there will be times where positivity won’t always be there, it’ll be a little easier on us when things do go bad.